
I had a small but strange experience yesterday that I can't get out of my mind.
There's a man here in the market who I see almost everyday, who I have never actually met. He is usually doing something industrious, sweeping or shoveling sidewalks, delivering things from one place to another, and I get the feeling he is an "odd-jobber" who probably keeps himself off the street with these little jobs for the local merchants. He seems well liked; he is of average looks and has long, slightly messy hair usually pulled back in a ponytail. He's in his late 30s, and has round, pink cheeks, and the appearance of someone who might smoke, drink and party quite heavily, or who until fairly recently, gave his vices a lot of freedom.
For no good reason, I have these opinions of him, and for no good reason, I think he is probably someone I might like, if I knew him, though he might not like me. In some ways he reminds me of my dad and his buddies, who tend to be gruff and rather scary-looking dudes on the outside, with big, jello-pudding centers. They were the kinds of guys who got up to a whole lot of no-good in their younger years, but who have mellowed out and aged enough so as to no longer cause a single eyelash to bat at the customs counter when they drive across the border.....much to their disappointment.
Anyhow, yesterday I saw this familiar character staggering up Augusta, dragging a large snow shovel, shaking violently, moaning and obviously in distress. Everybody was looking at him, and I realized he was having some kind of seizure. Without thinking about it, I walked over to him and said "Hey, are you okay? Can I help you" and placed my mittened hand on his back to steady him. He looked (and felt) like he could topple over himself at any second onto the cold, hard concrete. Of it's own volition, my hand started rubbing big circles on his back, the way they would if I was comforting a friend who was upset or feeling sick. He immediately stopped shaking, and came out of his seizure. He mumbled "ya, I'm fine" and walked hastily away from me.
I was instantly appalled by my actions. I must have embarrassed him terribly. People who experience seizures often feel nothing stronger than embarrassment afterward, and I should have just watched him from a distance and only jumped in if he was in real danger. ....Or did I do the right thing? I am not sure
how quickly I realized it was a seizure. For a split second, many other possibilities went through my brain too: he has just been hit by a car, got beat-up, is over-dosing.... All I wanted to do was stop him from falling over and cracking his teeth or skull.
I know my actions were pretty much involuntary... I don't know if I could have reacted in any other way. I don't know if I
should have reacted in some other way. What do you think? Should I be training myself to ignore these kinds of situations? It's not the first time I have done something like that, gotten "involved"... As of yet I haven't been punched in the face for my obtrusions, but perhaps I've been lucky so far?